Checking In

It has been almost a month since my Christmas Eve post.  Please forgive my absence. I didn’t really plan to take a break, but for the first time in a year, I had no urge to write.

The following morning, I drove down to my home town and spent Christmas day with my family.  It was cathartic.  All the feelings came crashing in.  I started crying to ‘Rocket Man’ as I drove over the river.

…and I think it’s going to be a long long time…

Pretty pitiful for a few minutes in the car alone.  Didn’t last long.   I recovered myself before the commercial break. Game face on for home.

My family surprised me.  They were very supportive. My dad especially.  I didn’t tell them about Stacy or the affair. Only that T and I had finally separated.

I stayed in a hotel for those last few days until T left for her trip.  I had to go back to the house every day to work, because that is where my office is.  We got along ok being in the house together during that time.  Talked through a lot of logistics, but no feelings.  I confirmed that I want a divorce. She hears me now. That genie is out of the bottle.

Three weeks have gone by since then.  The holidays are over and I am getting back to normal. T is settled in at her new gig.  She has emailed a few times to let me know she is alright.

Stacy and I are spending a lot of time together. I have to confess, sometimes it has been too much.  I need a day or two to myself once a week.  We had a spat about it recently.  She surprised me the next day and apologized for “stage 4 clingy girlfriend.” Her words not mine. LOL.

I’ve just ended a long term marriage and do not want to hop into another relationship.  I’m not seeing anyone else. No hobbying either.

Anyhow…  Happy New Year everyone.  I am interested to see what 2016 will bring.

2 Comments Add yours

  1. Moi says:

    Are you happiest hobbying or being monogamous? If you enjoy either will Stacy be ok with it? I know a man whose wife abruptly left him and he was with a different woman every night until one day he was done. Met a woman, settled down and had kids. I hope if you like variety you never marry again. Your next wife might be a little unhappy.


    1. uehobbyist says:

      It is earl for me to say, but right now i think I will not marry again. I am happy dating Stacy. However, I know myself and do not want to fall into my same pattern of jumping from relationship to relationship. In order to grow, I feel I need to be on my own.

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