Ramble On

I had a long travel day yesterday.

Left my house at 5:30 A.M. Flew halfway across the country for a meeting, flew all the way back and walked into my house after midnight.  That blizzard was wreaking havoc with the U.S. travel network all day. Luckily I didn’t get stuck anywhere.  Thank you Delta and Uber.

As an aside, I’m still not comfortable with naming storms other than hurricanes (which should only have female names, btw).  I mean who was really offended by that? Probably just the news media creating things again for the sake of something to talk about.

It is now Saturday morning and blogging is coming back to me.  Stacy will be over later today and will spend the night.  We’ve been dating and it has been moving way too quickly for me sometimes.  We have an agreement now to spend time together on the weekends, but not during the week.

She is at a stage in her life where she is rapidly evolving for the better. Self actualization is happening for her. It is impressive.  I hope I can be that honest with myself this year.  I will definitely have the opportunity.

She doesn’t have many positive people in her life.  I am relatively sane, stable and in control of the things around me.  She needs that.   She is a realist, blunt, and keeps me grounded. Which I need.

The challenge here is that I do not want to be in a relationship, and I think she does.  My focus this year is finalizing my divorce, and ensuring that T and I are both financially stable afterwards.  That will easily take all year.

This will mean a lot of hours at work and on the road…. plus lawyers and real estate agents.

I like her, we connect. I can handle being a boyfriend .  No more than that. No commitments. No plans.

A year from now, let’s see where that goes.



4 Comments Add yours

  1. kingmidget says:

    Maybe you should define your terms. You don’t want a romance, you just want to be a boyfriend. What exactly does that mean? Being a boyfriend usually means a commitment. Yes, it doesn’t mean commitment to a marriage or “forever,” but it’s a commitment to comething.

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    1. uehobbyist says:

      good point. we have approached that discussion from a few angles…in addition to where we both are emotionally.


  2. Anonymous says:

    The thing is, you had your cake and were eating it before T discovered you . Being married in a way is protective . It is the devil you know and which prevents you from having to commit to someone else . My hobbying was never better until I got caught ,now things are very different -in a bad way . As a single man someday ,you will not have the excuse “I’m married” to avoid the difficult decisions . Very few civilian ladies will go out with a man who makes it clear that he is unavailable long term for her .

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    1. uehobbyist says:

      I have been considering this point for a while now. I have no idea how I am going to approach it once I am single. I am not eager to be married a third time either though. I’ll just have to see what happens.


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